Can You Tap Dance Your Way to Joy?
So how did Step One go? If you missed the last blog and don’t know about Step One, check it out here.
First, let me say that I understand that this even simple steps can cause resistance.
You may be saying things like, “Yeah Kimberly, easy for you. If I could do what makes me happy, or think happy thoughts, I wouldn’t be unhappy.”
And you’re right. I wish had a magic wand to wave to make it all ok, right now.
Did you know….
I have a coach as well. A wonderful woman who points out the roadblocks I may still occasionally run into. So, yes, having help makes it easier. And quicker.
But these are the steps you take no matter where you are.
Don’t be discouraged.
Don’t give up.
You can do this.
Ready for step two???? Oui?
2. Figure out how you want to feel.
Hmmmm, you may be saying, this step sounds a lot like step one.
Know why? Because we do the things we do and want the things we want, not for the thing itself, but how it will make us feel.
It is the feeling we really want.
So, if you have the five things you really want, (Step One), look at that list and write every feeling word that pops up for you about how you will feel when you have those things.
In other words, if affection from your husband is something you desperately want – why is that? What is it you want to feel? Safe, sensual, desired, warm, sheltered, in control because he wants you, young, kissed, needed…. What is it you want to feel?
Come up with at least three feelings for each want. Once you finish, look at the list and see if there are any common denominators.
Did you list one or more feelings several times? These are clues.
OK, do it.
Go through your list of five and come up with at least three feelings for each of your heart’s desires. Write them down next to your desire.
Thursday we will talk about Step Three– how to create those feelings, even if we haven’t reached the goal yet.
Don’t miss it!
Until then –